There’s been a story all over the news this week about a woman in Kennebunk, Maine, who was apparently a Zumba-dancing fitness instructor who had a little prostitution business on the side.
Kennebunk is a charming New England coastal town, and generally a bit higher end than most (the Bush family has their summer home there). Scandals like this in towns like that always make me laugh out loud. On the surface, looking in from the outside, it seems like an idyllic part of America. But barely below the surface, it’s just as seedy and messed up as every place else on earth. I like watching hypocrites fall.
There are a few things that are especially bugging me about this story, though, and they are both related to the release of the names of this woman’s customers. People are freaking out. Why? The men because they will get caught, and the women because they are probably happier being ignorant to what their husbands are getting up to in their off time (although any woman whose husband was going off to a private Zumba lesson should have probably already been suspicious). The list is said to contain names of prominent members of the community. The horror of having them exposed for what they have done!!
The fact that they expect some sort of anonymity is baffling to me. Anonymity should be reserved for victims. The last thing these men are is victims. However, it seems that some of the men may have been video recorded (eew) without their knowledge, thus technically making them victims. It’s such a weak technicality.
The other thing that makes me irate about people not wanting names released was something I read in this boston.com article yesterday. A local resident shared his opinion about the names being release, and he was conflicted, because releasing names could “cause marriages to dissolve and men to lose their jobs.” I don’t know about the job thing – is it legal to fire someone for visiting a prostitute? But the dissolution of marriage argument is beyond preposterous to me. I don’t know what the sociological or psychological reasons are for men visiting prostitutes and paying for sex, but my guess is, their marriage isn’t so rock solid to begin with if that’s how they’re spending their free time. Perhaps this is something they should have thought of before they paid that lady for sex? Worrying about what it will do after the fact is ridiculous. They’re not sorry they did it, they’re sorry they got caught. That doesn’t count.